The day was long and the night promised to be longer as I lay sobbing quietly next to my husband. I dared not wake him, afraid I’d have to confess the failed day with our son—a day of constant scolding and crying and putting division between his young heart and my own.
Eventually I rose, as I always did in such defeated moments, to scan the shelves for the perfect parenting book that would give me my next plan. As I stood bleary-eyed and hopeless, I uttered, more to myself than anyone else, “I need help.”
Through the shadows of both the night and my own condemning heart, light penetrated with the words, “Ask Me.” I was not familiar then with “the still small voice” of God as I was rarely quiet long enough to hear it, but in that moment, I knew He had heard my pathetic plea and answered.
Although I’d cried without expectation, although I’d spent those early mothering years determined to do it my way, and although I rarely gave God the crumbs of my day let alone the first, He was there.
Psalm 145:18 promises, “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.” The truth was, I was weary and out of resources and in that great place of weakness, I was finally able to hear the treasures He longed to share, the insights on my child that only He could reveal as the ultimate parenting resource.
As I sat in silence before Him, His answer to my heart was simple. My son didn’t need a new game plan. He didn’t need more discipline or less structure. He simply needed eye-to-eye, hand-in-hand attention periodically throughout the day. That revelation changed our relationship instantly and forever. I learned that a hug was often all it took to diffuse a meltdown, and that a snuggle together with a book could transform a negative spirit for the rest of the day. God knew and now I knew simply by asking.
My son has since gone off to college, but I have three other children behind him that I still need personal guidance for. Sadly, I am often too self-reliant and have to be brought back to that night.
Through it, I am reminded that although there are many authors who know a great deal about children in general, only the author of my children knows them specifically. There are great books, many that have provided me with timely and wise advice, but my Father in heaven was and is the authority on my children, and He will never refuse to give me wisdom and direction when I ask for it.
I don’t know whether you believe in such a personal God, but I challenge you to test His word in James 1:5 which says “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (NIV) He cares for you and your children, and you can trust every word He says.
This task of parenting is often a challenging and frightening one. I hope you know I’m on your side and that I have prayed for you today to find the answers you need that will bring peace and joy to your home. God Bless You!